- Sadness because the engagement, wedding, and honeymoon was a lot of fun, but now it seems like all of that fun is over.
- Disappointment because after all the work, planning, and money, it doesn’t seem like it was worth it in the end.
- Emptiness because the wedding occupied so much of the bride’s time in the months (and perhaps years) leading up the wedding.
I don’t think that every bride goes through negative emotions when the wedding is over, but I do believe that it’s more common than you might think. In fact, “postnuptial depression” is now a common condition that apparently affects a ton of women. There’s a whole lot of build-up and emotions built into a wedding, especially when it’s a big destination affair (like a Disney wedding) that has eaten up a ton of the bride’s focus and energy for a long time. If it’s a great day, it makes sense that the bride could experience a sense of loss because the day has passed, and if it’s not a great day, it makes sense that the bride would experience frustration at having stressed out so much only to be disappointed. Plus, is it really that strange to think that a bride might experience all three of the problems mentioned above as she comes down from that frenzied wedding high?
If you’re one of the brides who never had a negative thought after the wedding was over, you may be very lucky. I didn’t experience too much “wedding detox”, but then again our wedding was a massive four-month marathon thanks to the fact that we had three receptions. By the time our events were officially over, I was so burnt out on our wedding and weddings in general that it was a long time before I even wanted to look through the photos. Plus, it’s not like I ever got that far away from our wedding after my burnt-out days had ended. I mean…you know…I blog about this stuff all day. We’ll be married two years this January, but my wedding planning days are still going strong. So, I’m probably not the best example of a post-wedding bride.
What about you? Are you a bride who was surprised at some of the feelings that came up after the wedding? Or maybe you haven’t gotten married yet, so you’re not sure what to expect when the event has come and gone. Either way, I’ll be doing a few more articles on this over the next couple of days and I’m interested to hear if you guys know what I’m talking about or if you think that brides just need to get over it already.