After we visited Oxbow Public Market on our first day in Napa, we retreated back to the house we were staying at and everyone napped for the rest of the day. As the sun went down and everyone started to wake up, I changed into a nicer shirt, brushed my hair out, put on a little eyeliner, and Kyle and I headed out to downtown Napa.
To say that we never do this sounds extreme, but it’s pretty much the truth. We never go out together anymore. We don’t have much child care here in Salt Lake, even though we have lots of family around, because Eva’s allergies are a little scary and people are apprehensive about watching her. We actually do have some offers on the table for people who are willing to take her now that she’s a little older, but the addition of Calvin makes it more of an imposition and the honest truth is that Kyle and I aren’t motivated enough to spend time just with each other.
That sounds awful, like we don’t value our time together, but the reality is that we don’t have a ton of free time during the week and when we do have it we like to spend it with the kids together. We also like to spend time with family and we enjoy the occasional escape where one of us goes out and has fun with other adults (still unfortunately novel in this house) so our date nights have become few and far between over time. We’ll see things every now and then, like a new restaurant Eva can’t eat at or an opera that we really want to see, but then we forget about them and quality time turns into seven minutes of conversation on the way to Target or McDonald’s or whatever doctor’s appointment we have that week.
Anyway, on our first night in Napa we had a babysitting offer on the table and we took it. My family was happy to hang out with the kids at home since my extended family doesn’t see them often, so we decided to head to a local tasting room to relax a little. I was apprehensive about leaving Calvin since it was my first time away from him outside of errands and appointments, but Napa is a small town and we weren’t going to be more than ten minutes away. And also I’m supposed to be un-helicopter-ing my parenting style. Baby steps.
I really thought we might grab a quick bite and head back since I didn’t want to dump the kids on anyone for too long, but as soon as we got downtown I couldn’t believe how good it felt to get away. We parked a couple of blocks away from the tasting bar and walked down the street with our arms around each other like we used to when our hands weren’t full of kids and diaper bags. We stopped to look at some of the old buildings. We made jokes about things we saw on the street. And when we got to the tasting bar we ordered a little too much wine and a little too much food and for the next two hours we couldn’t stop talking about how much fun we were having.
I really love my husband. I say that all the time on here, so it’s not like that’s a revelation or anything, but usually I’m referring to how much I love my husband for being a good father and for supporting my business and for helping me out so much around the house. What I’m talking about is the fact that I just really love Kyle, the guy I married. He’s so funny and he talks about the most random stuff when we aren’t obsessing over the kids and the bills and the house. Being at dinner was like traveling back in time to when we were dating and everything we did was the most fun I’d ever had. It made me realize how much we need to carve out time somehow to just enjoy each other.
We stayed a little too long and it was wonderful. The wine tasting room that we chose is called the Carpe Diem Wine Bar and it’s just a short walk from the rest of the downtown Napa attractions. We each got a tasting flight (reds for him, bubbles for me) and we got a cheese and charcuterie sampler that had a combination of local and important deliciousness. For dessert, Kyle got a “tiramisu” made with Guinness and I got their homemade Twix bar which was caramel ice cream and shortbread crisps. I don’t even really like caramel or Twix bars, but that dessert was so good I haven’t stopped thinking about it. If you’re in Napa looking for a place to sit and enjoy the culture, we would highly recommend it. Definitely going back!