Family Bedroom: Why We All Sleep in the Same Room

Family Bedroom - King size bed and kid bunk bed from IKEA with white bedding. See the rest of the photos at

We all sleep in the same room.

You might have figured that out already, if you followed the transition from “Eva’s room” to “shared office/playroom” and realized that our lovely house is teeny tiny. With only two bedrooms, there were limited options.

The funny thing is, we don’t sleep in the same room simply because of space issues. Starting about a year ago, our family sleep pattern went down the drain. I was incredibly sick in the middle of my pregnancy, so I spent most nights wandering around trying to feel better. Then we entered the bed rest portion of the pregnancy and Kyle was booted out to the living room so that I could stay up until all hours. With the bed rest summer and the new sleeping arrangements, Eva’s sleep schedule got all thrown off.

By the time Calvin was born, Eva was awful about going to sleep. She’d wander around in her room in the dark or turn on her library light (unfortunately reachable via bunk bed) so we’d find her reading until all hours of the night. She’d get yelled at and threatened and pleaded with and promises of rewards and she’d nod or cry or smile and as soon as the door was shut she’d go back to playing/reading/not sleeping.

We actually weren’t faring much better in our room. Calvin threw off our sleep schedule, of course, but we would also toss and turn and get up to see if Eva was ok. At the worst of it, nobody was sleeping and the only person who really had an excuse to be up was Calvin. Something had to change.

I finally decided that we needed a restful space. Our room was crazy crowded with mess and baby stuff and some work stuff and also cookbooks(?) and some old magazines. What I really wanted was one of those oasis rooms that just makes you want to crawl into bed and close your eyes. So, I did it.

Family Bedroom - Why we all sleep in the same space. See the rest of the photos at

We moved all of the not-sleeping stuff out of the room or into a drawer/closet/bin under the bed. Then we moved Eva’s bed in so the room is basically just our beds. I got rid of our decor (leaving only a guitar Kyle uses sometimes when he sings to the kids) and changed out our colored bedding for plain white stuff we could bleach.

IKEA bed in the family bedroom. See the rest of the photos at

We have a dresser in the room, but we try hard not to let clutter accumulate. The only permanent stuff is an iPad base for the sleep sounds we can’t sleep without, a diffuser with some lavender oil, and a humidifier with star projections.

Creating a sleepy space in the family bedroom. See the rest of the photos at

I did keep our large mirror to make the space feel a little bigger and we put the blue toy box in here so that Calvin’s corner does have a bit of that nursery feel. I do wish that I could have made him one of those Land of Nod boy nurseries that rule Pinterest, but I have to admit that I don’t wish he was in another room. I also don’t wish Eva was in another room. I love (love) having us all sleep in the same place.

Guitar hung over the crib in the family bedroom. See the rest of the photos at

Surprised? I admit that it’s kind of a nutty idea and we weren’t sure that it was going to work out. We have had some rough nights, but only due to the kids having coughs and waking us up. To be honest, whenever Eva was sick in the past we used to check on her about every 30 minutes because we’re crazy, so it’s nice to have her right there now. It’s also been impressive how well the kids have slept through each other’s sounds. If anything, I’m hoping this will make them better sleepers.

Would we have a family bedroom if we had more space? Well, maybe actually. I love the idea of a designated sleeping space and since we made it a no-reading, no-tech area it has led to better nights of sleep. (OK, I admit that Kyle and I have been sneaking our iPads in but we’re totally paying for it by not sleeping as well. We’ll learn eventually…) Eva is also sleeping more, partially because she has nothing to get up and play with if she gets up and also because she doesn’t wake up feeling like she’s missing something.

As for Calvin…I don’t know. He’s great, but I think he came that way. But for the sake of supporting my decorating, let’s just say that my bedroom plan has led to his insane amount of inner harmony.

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  • Reply Danielle

    We all share a bedroom in our small place too. We all have white sheets too! Everyone sleeps better and I love having us all together.

    March 19, 2014 at 3:51 pm
    • Reply Carly Morgan

      It’s really so relaxing.

      March 19, 2014 at 10:43 pm
  • Reply Meagan

    I love, love, love this! We all sleep together too and it’s not because of space either (although we are in a tiny two-bedroom also!) I get so much flack from everyone about having Lily’s crib in our room when we have a room for her, but we all rest better together!

    March 19, 2014 at 4:02 pm
    • Reply Carly Morgan

      I swear, I get so much more rest now that I can just look over and see both kids. I’m so glad to hear that other parents feel the same way – I was feeling kind of clingy!

      March 19, 2014 at 10:44 pm
  • Reply Hope at Disneyland

    I like it and I’m glad you’re all sleeping better. 🙂

    March 19, 2014 at 4:03 pm
    • Reply Carly Morgan

      Me too. 🙂

      March 19, 2014 at 10:44 pm
  • Reply J Humenay

    Sounds like a fabulous idea! Love the “restful oasis” theme. I get relaxed just thinking about it. But doesn’t that make couple time basically reserved to hotel rooms and baby sitters out of the house?

    March 19, 2014 at 5:58 pm
    • Reply Carly Morgan

      This is the top question, but it hasn’t been an issue. I won’t elaborate…but not a problem.

      March 19, 2014 at 10:45 pm
  • Reply Charlene

    Wow! I love that idea! I may have to consider that when hubby and I have kids.

    It reminds me of when I was living at my sorority house (over 15 yrs ago! eep!). My 3 roommates and I had the most “undesired” room in the house. It was two rooms in one space with a double sink in between. A couple months into the semester, and we decided to have our bunk beds in one room (our sleeping nook), and we made the other room a living area with a desk, computer, TV, and love seat. All the sisters loved hanging out with us in that space! LOL

    March 19, 2014 at 8:14 pm
    • Reply Carly Morgan

      Such a smart idea! I think it makes total sense to separate the sleeping area from the work area.

      March 19, 2014 at 10:45 pm
  • Reply Christine

    Before my grandmother passed away, she had her own room, and my crib and eventually my toddler bed were in my parents’ room. I’d crawl up into my parents’ bed every so often. I’d like to think I came out ok so whatever works for your family! 🙂

    March 20, 2014 at 2:08 am
  • Reply Anonymous

    I know this post is a bit older but I was researching family sleeping rooms and came across it. We have a big 5 bedroom house but for some reason my husband and I sleep better when the kids are in room with us. Our 2 year old Is in our bed and our 6 year old drags her mattress in and sleeps on it on the floor. I’ve been thinking more and more lately about bringing bunk beds into our room and just making it a common sleeping room. I’m thinking people may think were insane since we have more than enough space. Your blog made me feel a bit better about my thoughts. Thanks for sharing!

    May 21, 2017 at 8:06 pm
  • Reply Anonymous

    We also have a family bedroom. It’s nice to know we aren’t the only ones. Sometimes I feel like it’s a dark secret and only a few friends know we do this. People think it’s super weird. We do have a 2nd bedroom but I prefer them close by. I hear them sooner which means I can respond to them sooner and avoid major upsets in the middle of the night.

    January 5, 2018 at 7:26 pm
  • Reply Anonymous

    We dont have a “room.” We live on a boat- which means we’re all in the same small space. Our bunk is in the bow of the boat and our 3yr old twins’ bunk is in the aft with just a curtain to block light. The main cabin is an open space between us. It’s not for everyone, but we love it.

    January 17, 2018 at 9:25 pm
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